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Are SG Girls Materialistic? July 3, 2007

Posted by WishBoNe in Career, Family, Food and Drinks, Friendship, Random Thoughts, Relationships, Romance/ Love.
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A comment here states that Singaporean women are materialistic. I wonder if the progress of this country has made the women materialistic. It has often been in discussion that men and women are equal of some sorts. Women should be able to work and still clean the house after a hard day’s work while the men should be able to enjoy the warm home-cooked meal after a hard day’s work. Now that women are able to study, women should be doing what men does, here, men complete NS and so must the women too. Then they will not complain about sissy men and all.

Just last week, a colleague was stating the cost of his wedding, estimated to be 25k for the dinner itself. The cost of the flat and renovation have not been factored in yet. Why such a high cost? Parents prefer 9 course dinner. Hotels and restaurants charge peak rates for dinners held during the weekends. That’s where they rake in the money.

Although being a filthy rich guy may make you “hotter” than those handsome but poor guys, it doesn’t make sure the girl stays with you if you ain’t got the character. Mindsets here have not changed by leaps and bounds. Guys still have to pay for the majority of the wedding, it’s no wonder the marrying age is getting older and why girls are dating those old men with cash to spare. They don’t get married too old. That’s for some girls.

A materialistic girl is someone who will stay with that guy only when he can lavish gifts and expensive holiday trips on her. Once, he hits a low, expect her to disappear. This post, however, degrades the guy’s perspective.

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1. DK - July 3, 2007

Eeerr… i know some singaporeans gals who r materialistic and I also know some that aren’t materialistic. Hee hee

2. WishBoNe - July 3, 2007

@DK
Of course there are some who are and some who aren’t. If not, that’ll be disaster, right?

3. DK - July 4, 2007

Ya… what I’m trying to say is…. we can’t one bamboo knock over the whole boat of people. 😛

4. WishBoNe - July 4, 2007

@DK
Everyone will drown if we do that. 😛 There’ll always be a least 2 camps of people.

5. incywincy - July 4, 2007

i think girls are becoming increasingly materialistic. but that doesn’t mean that we have to depend on guys for things – because we can be financially independent too; and that is what is happening today.

i know that there *are* girls out there who actually demand of this and that from their boyfriends, and have “requirements” such as the following:

[quote]
1. must have car (if cannot even afford a car, he must be damn poor)
2. must bring me for a holiday every sch holiday (erm, very common among uni girls)
3. must be able to buy me flowers, jewellery, etc.
4. must be able to bring me out for expensive dinners
[unquote]

i get sick when i hear girls making such proclamations (the friendship oor acquaintanceship doesn’t last much longer thereafter).

point is that there are a lot of such girls – especially in unis in singapore, because i’ve met them. it’s scary how the desire to want to show off to people has degenerated some girls into doing this in exchange for ‘social status’.

6. WishBoNe - July 4, 2007

@incywincy
Gosh, the only thing I require is that must be able to accompany me on holiday. The payment can go Dutch for the air fares and lodging. So, the higher the qualifications, the more demanding the girls have for “social” status. Geez.

7. Paddy Tan - July 4, 2007

Everyone is materialistic. The big difference is to what degree that person is willing to work for it. Some are so caught up (be it man or woman, Singaporeans or ang moh) that they are willing to tilt certain things to benefit it more than others. 🙂

Paddy
BAK2u.com

8. WishBoNe - July 4, 2007

@Paddy
We tend to generalise things, don’t we? 😛 Blame on the gender instead of looking at things from another perspective.

9. modobs - July 5, 2007

Geez, I was reading an article the other day about what’s frightening men nowadays, and it seems that there’s a growing fear of not be able to handle a woman’s need anymore. Are we becoming monsters because we’re independent ?

10. WishBoNe - July 6, 2007

@modobs
I’m afraid of that too. Men are actually afraid of women who seem to be gaining financial stability faster than them. Here, the common complaint is that men have to serve 2 years in the army (mandatory) and they lose out the 2 years to earn. They have often stated that women should do the same too.

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13. BlueJay - July 17, 2007

Oh come on! Lets be realistic here, Singaporean men are just as materialistic as Singaporean women. Why the need to drive flashy cars, purchase state-of-the-art electronic gadgets and the quibbling over 2 years lost because of NS even though men generally have longer socially-acceptable working lifespans and earn higher salaries?

If you are angling for true equality by having women do NS, then why not have the men give birth too? Why not have assets of an estate divided equally between children of both gender, instead of giving the bigger share to the male children and the smaller shares to the female? Why not stop the misogynistic attitudes towards women about how men are entitled to flirt around because of their biological needs and women who flirt around are sluts? Why don’t people stop assessing a woman’s value in accordance with the way she looks? Why don’t people stop describing a woman in her 40s as ‘old’ just because she no longer looks 18, and a wrinkled man with graying hair and a pot belly is called ‘distinguished looking’?

I mean no offense here, but what I wanted to say is women are still continually being victimised and denigrated, especially by Singaporean men. Just look at the misogynistic attitudes of Singaporean men rampany in the Sammyboy forums and your average Singaporean man.

Why is it ok and not materialistic for men to desire driving posh cars and owing expensive gadgets and women are materialistic for wanting the same things?

I do think that there are many materialistic Singaporean women. But hello pot? Meet kettle. Being materialistic is an attribute that occurs in both men and women. However, if a man is pursuing a long-term relationship with a materialistic woman, it is his choice and he must seriously consider the ramifications of pursing and keeping that woman.

I am a woman and I consider myself materialistic. I do hanker after the good things in life. Luckily for me, I can afford it. In spite of my materialistic tendenicies, I love my fiance, who did not come from a rich family. My relationship with him transcends any materialistic yearnings and I will continue to love him even when he decides to gie up his present job and become a student again, and even if it means having to give up my present lifestyle.

14. WishBoNe - July 17, 2007

@BlueJay
As what Paddy has mentioned, materialistic occurs in both genders. There never was any need to differentiate except that those guys are sour grapes because they can’t get the women and just label them as “SG Girls are Materialistic”.

With the rising living standards, one has to upgrade himself/herself in order to continue to eat.


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