I Vow Not To Be Like That March 23, 2007Posted by WishBoNe in Emotions & Feelings, Family, Friendship, Random Thoughts, Relationships, Romance/ Love.
Have you ever told yourself that you don’t want to be like *insert person role/name* but subsequently, you have unconsciously become that person? The every habit or thinking or action that you have been treated with, has become part of you.
You have been subjected to some action or behaviour and you hated that feeling and vowed never to be that way. Yet, in the same situation, you choose that action because it’s the easiest to act.
One of the most commonly used tactic to avoid someone is to avoid contacting that person. When the person tries to call you, you don’t answer. Everyone’s calling each other’s handphone, that it’s so easy to see the number on the caller ID and avoid picking up. Don’t reply to the SMS sent, never return calls, etc. So easy.
The person who is on the receiving end, gets the drift and vows not to be like that to anyone. He/she vows to be brave about it and told himself/herself to tell that person whom they wished to reduce the contact with. However, over time, he/she my have forgotten the vow and chose to use the easiest tactic.
It gets into a vicious cycle. The victims always promised not to do the same thing but in the end, they do it. I have been on the receiving end and I vow not to do it but will I be able to?