Relationship Expectations November 2, 2006Posted by WishBoNe in Emotions & Feelings, Relationships.
This is just part 1 of what I happened to read. An excerpt below shows what I’ve done in the past.
Very often, the expectations we have of others stem from our own consciousness, our own psyche, and have little or nothing to do with the other person.
When we take our own ideals, standards, and values and use them as benchmarks of whether someone is good enough for us or good enough to us, we’re bringing unhealthy expectations into the relationship. We then demand that the other person behaves in accordance with these expectations. So when he or she eventually does something that appears to be in deep contrast with the standards we’ve projected onto them, we often feel hurt, betrayed, angry and confused.
With expectations of the other party without understanding that they’re just presenting who they’re to us; i.e. being themselves, we’re just hurting the ones we care about the most. I’ve been trying my best not to implement any expectations on my loved ones. I think I’m improving because I haven’t been disappointed so far
What I’ve done is to check out on information on Mars and Venus. I’ll be putting up the links later once I’ve sorted them out.