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Learn to Accept June 21, 2006

Posted by WishBoNe in Emails, Interesting/Hilarious Emails, Relationships.
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A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the activities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” she offered. “Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.” The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

“I’ll start,” offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband’s eyes.

“What’s wrong?” she asked.

“Nothing” the husband replied, “keeps reading your list.” The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it. “Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.” She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

In life, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don’t really have to go looking for them. We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us? I believe that we are happiest when we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad.

It’s true that we should accept the other party for who they are. Cause isn’t who they are in the 1st place that makes us fall in love with them?

Even if u want to change. Change it for yourself, dun feel that you’re changing for others cause one day u would feel annoyed n wonder why are u doing all this n this will strain your relationship.

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1. - June 22, 2006

If the husband got so many weakness why did the wife chose him in the first place.

Dating is always the easy part. Living together is the hard part in the marriage. Another couple among my friends are going their ways not even a year after they held their wedding..

Many people are just treating marriage as a game. Sad but true.

2. WishBoNe - June 22, 2006

This is like asking a wife whose husband had an affair why she can forgive him.

Couples must have some sort of preparation to live together after the marriage. Both must be able to let the other know that the habits that have been developed over time can’t be changed overnight.

Being in love is easy but living together is difficult because both parties won’t know what lies in store for them in marriage.

Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It is something that is sacred and not just a piece of paper certifying that you are now husband and wife.

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